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Behaviour and Feelings<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Being unable to express feelings verbally can be one of the causes of challenging behaviour. Children might not have the ability to talk about their emotions due to their age, particularly if they are under five \u2013 for example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Up to two years old, they will usually be possessive \u2013 particularly of people and toys they love \u2013 and easily frustrated, which might result in shouting and throwing things.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- At three years old, they might have more language with which to express themselves, but still be prone to sudden mood swings or behaving in extreme ways without necessarily knowing the reason why.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
By five years old, children will usually be able to express and manage their feelings some or most of the time, but some children struggle to do this even as they get older. This could be due to Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND) like Autism Spectrum Disorder<\/a>, speech, language, and communication needs<\/a> or social, emotional, and mental health needs (e.g. anxiety<\/a>). Children with these needs might, instead of talking about their feelings:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Frequently cry or have tantrums.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Have aggressive outbursts, including hitting, biting, or throwing things.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Often feel hurt, misunderstood, or like a victim.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Worry too much or too long over minor things.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Be quick to get frustrated and give up.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Have trouble letting go of things that are upsetting.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Become overexcited about social activities or events, having a sudden burst of energy.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Teaching children about emotions and encouraging them to express their feelings can have a positive impact on their behaviour, as it gives them the words to talk about how they feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Our Challenging Behaviour training course<\/a> is recommended for professionals who want to have a better understanding of how to respond to the behaviour of the children and young people that they work with. It emphasises proactive strategies to prevent behaviour incidents, as well as going through research-based reactive strategies (including reacting to extreme behaviour) and putting support in place after behaviour incidents. Visit our course library<\/a> to have a look at this and our other available training courses.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\nWhy Might a Child Struggle to Identify Emotions?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Emotional development is a complex process. Identifying emotions in others \u2013 and in yourself \u2013 involves recognising cues and matching them to the specific emotion, such as tears for sadness or frowning for anger. It also involves understanding which situations might evoke a certain emotion, so that children can identify why someone might be feeling the way they are. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It takes time for children to build up the ability to do this, and they may also not have the language available to them to describe their \u2013 or other people\u2019s \u2013 feelings adequately yet. However, with practice, children can learn to identify emotions accurately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\nHow Can I Help Children to Express Their Feelings?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
All adults who work with or care for children have a role in encouraging children to express their feelings. You are their role model as well as their coach \u2013 you can demonstrate different emotions and reactions to events, and coping strategies, as well as helping them practise saying their thoughts out loud.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s important to do this because children who have high levels of emotional intelligence are more likely to:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Be empathic and supportive of others.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Have good mental health and wellbeing (including reduced risk of anxiety).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Behave appropriately.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Have positive and stable relationships.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Perform well at school and in their career.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
Having the freedom to express themselves also shows children that you care about them and want to take their feelings into account. They know that you will listen to them, never minimising or dismissing the way they feel.<\/p>\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\nIdeas for helping children to express their feelings include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Role-playing different emotions<\/strong> and how to talk about them \u2013 come up with a scenario, explain or ask them to guess what you\u2019re each feeling (talking about the reactions in your body, such as tears or butterflies in your stomach), and work together to find a constructive way of handling it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Labelling emotions<\/strong> for them until they can do it themselves, creating a link between the feeling and the word \u2013 research has shown that simply labelling a feeling reduces the negative effects it is having on you. For example, you might say: \u201cYou look sad \u2013 are you sad because you wanted to play with Lily?\u201d Use picture books, photos, and videos to talk about other people\u2019s facial expressions and think about what they might be feeling. In the classroom, you could choose books that spark discussion about emotions during literacy, such as The Day The Crayons Quit, Wonder, The Birds, or Hug Me (also available on CBeebies bedtime stories).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Drawing, painting, and colouring<\/strong> \u2013 some children might benefit from drawing what they think their emotion looks like. This can help them to process it, as well as helping you understand how they\u2019re feeling, reducing frustration on both sides.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Modelling positive behaviours<\/strong> \u2013 show them how to handle challenging situations and disappointment appropriately by doing it yourself. You might tell them how you feel and why, then model coping strategies such as listening to music, taking a bath, or sitting in a calm, quiet area.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\nTips for Improving a Child’s Emotional Development<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
We have collated five tips you can use to improve a child\u2019s emotional development and encourage them to express their feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Respond to their emotional cues<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Recognising and responding to emotions is a two-way process \u2013 if you want to teach children how to do it, read the cues they are sending out and respond as soon as you can. Remember not to invalidate or dismiss their feelings. <\/p>\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n2. Help them express feelings in a positive way – even if this isn’t verbal<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
While we\u2019ve discussed how important it is to express feelings verbally, sometimes this won\u2019t be possible. In these cases, there are other ways that children can express themselves positively, such as having an outlet for the emotional energy \u2013 dancing, running, singing, or star jumps can be great for this, as can taking some deep breaths, or having time out to relax. Brainstorm strategies with the child when you can \u2013 what do they think might help?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the classroom, strategies such as feelings boards (where each child places their name of a photograph of them into a different area of emotion on the board) and feelings scales (where you work with the child to develop a scale charting emotions from \u2018one\u2019 – calm and ready to learn – to \u2018five\u2019 – heightened negative emotions – and come up with strategies to help at each level) could help to get children thinking about how they feel and how to handle it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Positively reinforce them<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
When the child expresses their feelings in an appropriate way, praise them. This shows them that feelings are normal and it\u2019s OK to express them, but also reinforces that there is an appropriate way of doing so. The child will then be more likely to repeat the appropriate behaviour in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n4. Be approachable<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Use open body language, friendly facial expressions, and kind words to show children that you\u2019re there for them and open to what they have to say. Listen actively throughout conversations about feelings \u2013 don\u2019t get distracted. Often, children only need to be heard and understood, and then they feel able to move past the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5. Draw their attention to other children’s feelings<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Young children aren\u2019t aware of other people\u2019s feelings in the same way that adults are \u2013 by drawing their attention to the fact that their actions can affect others, you can help them to make steps in their emotional development. If two children have an argument, listen to both perspectives, and discuss how both of them have needs and feelings that need to be resolved. Help to remind children of this consistently \u2013 for example, you might say: \u201cOh dear, Mo is sitting in the corner and he looks sad \u2013 why do you think he might be upset? Can you think of anything to do to make him feel better?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\nEmotional development is important to children\u2019s outcomes later on, and there are plenty of strategies that you can use to be supportive and encouraging. Remember to be a good role model and use everyday situations as teaching points \u2013 building children\u2019s abilities to understand, recognise, and express feelings reduces the likelihood of challenging behaviour. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\nFurther Resources:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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- Challenging Behaviour Training<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- How to Support SEMH in Schools<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Why is Child Development So Important in Early Years?<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- How to Deal with Challenging Behaviour in the Classroom<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- What is Effective Questioning & Why Should I Use it in My Classroom?<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Conflict in the Classroom: Coaching Children in Acting Responsibly<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Understanding the Importance of Motivation in Education<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Promoting Social Development in Children Through Structured Group Play<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- 8 Ideas for Building Resilience in Children at School<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Autism Feelings Chart for Children<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- How to Support a Child with Autism in the Classroom<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Promoting Positive Behaviour in Early Years: A Guide for Nurseries<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Supporting Language Development in the Early Years<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Mental Health Resource Pack for Schools<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- What is Restorative Practice in Schools & Social Work?<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Child Mental Health Quiz<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Child Development Quiz<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n
- What are the Emotional Needs of a Child?
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- Labelling emotions<\/strong> for them until they can do it themselves, creating a link between the feeling and the word \u2013 research has shown that simply labelling a feeling reduces the negative effects it is having on you. For example, you might say: \u201cYou look sad \u2013 are you sad because you wanted to play with Lily?\u201d Use picture books, photos, and videos to talk about other people\u2019s facial expressions and think about what they might be feeling. In the classroom, you could choose books that spark discussion about emotions during literacy, such as The Day The Crayons Quit, Wonder, The Birds, or Hug Me (also available on CBeebies bedtime stories).<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Role-playing different emotions<\/strong> and how to talk about them \u2013 come up with a scenario, explain or ask them to guess what you\u2019re each feeling (talking about the reactions in your body, such as tears or butterflies in your stomach), and work together to find a constructive way of handling it.<\/li>\n\n\n\n